1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.
  2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
  3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
  4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
  5. Request the late check-out.
  6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
  7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
  8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
  9. Play with passion or don’t play at all…
  10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
  11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
  12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
  13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
  14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
  15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
  16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
  17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
  18. Never turn down a breath mint.
  19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
  20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
  21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.
  22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
  23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
  24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
  25. Manners maketh the man.
  26. Give credit. Take the blame.
  27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.
  28. Write down your dreams.
  29. Take time to snuggle your pets, they love you so much and are always happy to see you.
  30. Be confident and humble at the same time.
  31. If ever in doubt, remember whose son you are and REFUSE to just be ordinary!
  32. In all things lead by example not explanation.💓
英文造句练习 by: Lily (wechat: 冷月颦)

A 10 year old girl was kidnapped and raped…her mother was put into jail because she was seeking for justice …[China Stories]

从混沌走向有序,需要一个过程,在这个过程中,很多人的思维由于转变得太慢,付出了沉痛的代价。比如说,80年代的严打,让很多人由于一些并不太严重的错误,失去了宝贵的生命,其中包括朱德的亲孙子,25岁的朱国华,由于强奸妇女和流氓罪被枪决。Moving from chaos to order requires a process. In this process, many people have paid a heavy price because their mindsets changed too slowly. For example, the crackdown movement in the 1980s made many people lose their precious lives due to some less serious mistakes, including Zhu Guohua, a 25-year-old grandson of Zhu De, one of the founders of the People’s Republic of China, who was shot for rape and hooliganism.

那是1983年,在那之前不太久就是文革,打死人不偿命的事情很常见,That was 1983. Not long before that was the cultural revolution, when it was very common to kill people without paying for their lives.

没想到几年之后,流氓罪都可以让人判死刑,哪怕是名门之后。Unexpectedly, a few years later, the crime of hooliganism can lead to death sentence, even he or she comes from famous families. 

一个没有法制,档高于法的社会,哪怕是朱德的孙子都不能幸免。In a society where there is no legal system and the level is higher than the law, even Zhu De’s grandson cannot be spared.

徐州铁链女引起世界关注,让一些人想起唐慧案. Xuzhou iron chain woman has attracted worldwide attention and reminded some people of Tang Hui’s case

这个中国女性的名字,和一个叫做劳教的历史词汇连在一起。这两个案子中,两个女孩的被拐卖,时间相隔10来年。虽然她们的悲惨经历完全不同,但都很不幸出生于一个普遍不把拐卖妇女儿童当一回事的年代。在徐慧的这个震惊全国的“强迫幼女卖淫案”中,一开始,当地的派出所竟然根本就不立案。The name of this Chinese woman is linked to a historical word called reeducation through labor. In these two cases, the of the two girls were abducted and trafficked at a time interval of more than 10 years. Although their tragic experiences are completely different, they are unfortunately born in an era when abduction and trafficking of women and children are generally not taken seriously. In Xu Hui’s “forced young girl prostitution case” that shocked the whole country, at the beginning, the local police station did not file a case at all.


  • 劳教 – 劳动教养 reeducate through labour
  • 上访 appeal to the higher authorities for help
  • 案件 case
  • 拐卖妇女儿童 trafficking in women and children
  • 休闲中心 leisure centre
  • 卖淫 prostitution

这个如今将近50岁的女人,曾经和丈夫以及独生女儿住在湖南省的永州市。The woman, now nearly 50, used to live in Yongzhou City, Hunan Province, with her husband, and their only-daughter. 后来为了保护女儿,他们家搬到了一个没人认识她们的城市。

2006年10月1日,她的10岁的女儿被附近一个发廊的理发师欺骗、强奸,被四人轮奸,被强迫带到休闲中心和酒店卖淫百余次。On October 1, 2006, her 10-year-old daughter was cheated and raped by a barber in a nearby hair salon, later gang raped by four men, and taken to a leisure center and hotels for prostitution for more than 100 times.

将近三个月后,由于一家人和亲戚朋友的努力,小女孩从一个休闲中心被找到,但已经患有严重的创伤后应激精神障碍,和性病。Nearly three months later, thanks to the efforts of her family, relatives and friends, the little girl was found from a leisure center, but she had suffered from severe post-traumatic stress disorder and sexually transmitted diseases.

当地公安机关刚开始拒绝对此立案,没有处罚任何一个犯罪分子,At the beginning, the local police office refused to file a case and did not punish any criminals.

妈妈唐慧以死相威胁,这家派出所才立案,They did it only after the mother Tang Hui threatened them with death.

但是19天过去了,依然允许那家胁迫幼女卖淫的休闲中心灯红酒绿地开业。However, 19 days later, the leisure center that forced the young girl into prostitution was still allowed to open.

后来唐妈妈遭到了这家休闲中心的威胁,但她不仅没有退步,反而坚定了作为妈妈的决心,Later, Mother Tang was threatened by the leisure center, but she not only did not step back, but strengthened her determination as a mother.

不仅仅要求严厉惩罚所有7名相关罪犯,后来还告了纵容犯罪的警察。She not only asked to severely punish all seven criminals, but also sued the police who connived at the crime. 

多次采取极端手段上访伸冤,She has repeatedly resorted to extreme means to petition for redress,

包括在2008年那场罕见的冰天雪地的冬天,跪在检察院的院子里长达十几个小时,including kneeling in the courtyard of the procuratorate for more than ten hours in the rare freezing winter of 2008,

包括去北京,被围追堵截,然后强行从北京开车押回到湖南永州老家,被打得吐血。。。 including going to Beijing, being surrounded, chased and intercepted, and then forcibly driving back from Beijing to her hometown of Yongzhou, Hunan by the police, and being beaten to vomit blood…

2010年,永州零陵公安局因为一种叫做“私下接受采访”的罪,把她关押了37天。In 2010, Yongzhou Lingling Public Security Bureau detained her for 37 days for a crime called “privately being interviewed”.

后来由于这个案件惊动了中央,经过多级法院的反复审理,罪犯基本上都受到了严惩,两人被判死刑,四人被判无期徒刑,一人被判15年。After repeated trials by multi-level courts, the case alerted the central government, the criminals were basically severely punished. Two of them were sentenced to death, four were sentenced to life imprisonment and one was sentenced to 15 years.

没想到最终判决之后几个月,这个妈妈突然被公安押走,因为多次采取静坐和长跪还有拦车等方式上访,以严重扰乱公共秩序为由,被一个叫做劳教委员会的机构,判处一年半劳动教养。Surprisingly, several months after the final trial, the mother was suddenly taken away from home, by the police, and sentenced to receive reeducation through labor for one and half a year, because of seriously disturbing the order of the public, which includes sitting in the front gate or courtyard of higher authorities, kneeling in those places for long hours, and stopping cars of high officials, etc.

经过当年舆论的强大压力和律师团的积极努力,她被释放。After the strong pressure of public opinion and the active efforts of the lawyer group, she was released. 

她再次打官司,这次的被告人是永州劳教委,她打赢了,对方给她赔偿10万元精神损失费,但她拒绝了,说​,我不在黑暗中拿钱。​She sued again. This time, the accused was Yongzhou Labor Education Commission. She won. The defendant offered to compensate her 100,000 yuan for mental loss, but she refused and said, I don’t take money in the dark.

这位坚强的妈妈成为了中国法制社会建设过程中的一个里程碑人物,和当年的电影《秋菊打官司》一样,代表了底层百姓寻求正义的强烈愿望。The strong mother has become a milestone in the construction of China’s legal society. Like the film Qiujus Lawsuit, she represents the strong desire of the people at the bottom to seek justice.


They said he was a rapist and murder, and sentenced him to death, 10 years later, the true murder confessed …China Stories

In January 2005, Wulanchabu city in Inner Mongolia was frozen, and a series of bloody tragedies made the whole Wulanchabu City tremble.

At 12:00 on January 2, 2005, a female corpse covered with corn straw and plastic film was found in Pingdiquan Town, Urumqi city.

The police initially judged that the deceased was a taxi driver who was raped and killed two hours ago.

Around the same time, a 22-year-old woman was raped in the wilderness,

A few days later, a 16-year-old female worker was raped and stabbed five times, and killed.

The police found the body of another raped and murdered woman in an abandoned tomb.

Feb.25 Serial Raping and Murdering was listed as the second major homicide case supervised by the Ministry of public security in 2005.

After more than 300 days of continuous investigation, the police finally had a target.

On October 23, 2005, a middle-aged man named Zhao Zhihong was arrested by the police. Later, the man confessed that he raped 27 times and killed 10 women in several years.

During the interrogation, Zhao Zhihong also confessed to the police the details of his rape and murder of a woman in a toilet in Hohhot nine years ago, His description of these details that suddenly alarmed the detectives in the interrogation room.

It turns out that the murder case confessed by Zhao Zhihong was “solved” by them as early as nine years ago.

At that time, an 18-year-old young man named Huggeletu was identified as the murderer, and was executed the same year.

In a major homicide case that has been concluded and executed, another murderer suddenly appeared nine years later, both men confessed raping and killing the same woman in the same toilet. Is this an unjust case, a wrong case, or a case in the case?

This rape and murder case, which made a sensation in those years, has surfaced again. There were two “killers” in a rape and murder case in 9 years!

The Department of Public Security of Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region promptly summoned Yan Feng, a witness in the rape and murder case nine years ago.

Yan recalled, on the evening of April 9, 1996, his co-worker Huggeletu and he had dinner together, and then went back to the workshop for the night shift. Because they drank some wine, in order to cover up the smell of wine, Huggeletu went out to buy bubble gum,

In no time he returned. and told Yan Feng that something bad had happened. Hugejiletu took him straight to the factory’s public bathroom and told Yan Feng that he had heard someone screaming in the women’s bathroom on his way for shopping. Something terrible must have happened.

After arriving at the public washroom, they noticed the light was dim. The two men shouted twice outside the washroom, no one answered, they lit a lighter and decided to go in and find out.

They saw a woman lay partially naked against the low wall, with her lower part of body exposed.

The two young men ran out of the alley, and saw a security booth right at the intersection, Hugejiletu suggested to call the police, Yan Feng said no and suggested to go back to the workshop.

Hugejiletu called the police anyway.

After Hugejiletu reporting the case to the police, that night the police separated the two young men and interrogated them. The same set of questions were asked for over ten times.

Halfway through the interrogation, Yan Feng heard tables and chairs moving in the other interrogation room, quite loudly, And then he heard screaming.

In the early morning of the next day, the detectives closed their interrogation towards Yan Feng. Once he was released from the police office, he came to Hugejiletu’s mother Aiyun Shang, and told her what had happened during the bloody night.

The horrible news brought by Yan Feng worried Jiggeletu’s parents.

After spending 48 hours in anxiety, the security guards of the No.1 Wool Mill approached them, that afternoon, they told them that the Xinchen Police Office had ordered them to get Hugejiletu’s bedding from his home, and told the poor family that their son had confessed to the murder.

Since then, Hugejiletu has been held in a detention center.

Later, after the first trial, the Intermediate People’s Court of Hohhot released their verdict, which says,

on the night of April 9, 1996, Hugejiletu slipped into a public toilet after drinking, raped and killed a young woman who was in the toilet.

Hugejiletu was sentenced to death for committing hooliganism and murder.

He appealed against the verdict of the first instance.

While waiting for the verdict of the second instance, his father Sanren Li saw the reasons for appeal written by his son, in the detention center, which says:

First, my joke with Yan Feng can not be used as witness testimony.

Second, I’m not afraid of death, but I want to die without being misjudged, I didn’t even try to strangle her, where did the blood come from?

Third, I am still young, I can still make contributions to the country.

What really happened was, Yan Feng, the colleague, expressed his concern while stopping Hugejiletu from reporting the case. He said to the young co-worker that the police might consider them as suspects.

“Even if you say you did it, the police would never it was us once they finish the investigation.” Hugejiletu replied.

And these words eventually became part of Hugejiletu’s incriminating testimony.

In addition, the most important hard evidence of the case is that the remaining blood sample from the finger suture of Huggeletu is completely consistence with the blood sample of the victim at her throat where she was strangled. However, based on the memory of a police officer who was in charge of the first scene investigation. no wounds and blood had been found on the body of the deceased.

The most important suspicion is that the police did not even compare the semen of Huggeletu with the residual semen in the victim’s corpse.

On June 5, 1996, Inner Mongolia Higher People’s Court ruled in the second instance: the original judgment should be maintained.

Five days later, Huggeletu was taken to the execution ground and shot. On the same day, his mother Aiyun Shang received a notice to collect his son’s body.

Qinggeletu was Hugejiletu’s third younger brother, only sixteen years old at the time. After Hugejiletu was executed, he took care of the cremation for his second older brother at the crematorium.

Qinggenetu recalls, he wrapped the body with a piece of cloth when he removed it from the stretcher, because it was very bloody, and he noticed his brother’s arms were very skinny.On the body of Hugejiletu there were deep and horrible marks showing that he had been strangled with rope.

After carrying it to the autopsy room, Qinggeletu saw two bullet holes on the corpse of his elder brother, once at the temple on the head, another at the back of the head.

Their mother Aiyun Shang told reporters, the young man may still be alive after the first shot, so they added the second shot.

On the northern plateau, spring comes late every year.

Even at Tomb-sweeping Day, it is still desolate and cold surrounding the grave of Hugejiletu.

For decades, Aiyun Shang has insisted to visit the grave of her son on this special day.

After Hugejiletu was shot, the couple had to bear the pain of losing their son, and also a bad name of their son being a rapist and murderer.Yet the legal verdict was final, unchangeable.

There was little the couple could do other than emotionally conclude that their son was incapable of rape or murder.

If the real murderer never comes out, there will be no way to prove his innocence.

On october 23, 2005, the serious serial rape and murder case in Ulanqab was finally solved. The suspect zhao Zhihong was arrested.

He confessed to 27 rapes and 10 murders over a ten-year period.

Among them was the Apr.9 Rape and Murder Case that took place in No.1 Wool Mill, Hohhot City, in 1996.

Such confession really alarmed the police.

They arranged senior police officers to interrogate Zhao Zhihong in turn, regarding the Apr.9 Rape and Murder Case.

Once week later, the police took Zhao Zhihong to the No.1 Wool Mill, to identify and restore the crime scene.

On November 28, 2006, The Huhu Intermediate People’s Court tried zhao Zhihong’s rape and murder case in private.
On Nov.28, 2006, the Huhohhot Intermediate People’s Court tried Zhao Zhihong’s rape and murder case in a closed court.

Out of all people’s expectation,
Out of everyone’s expectation,

When the public prosecution charged Zhao Zhihong, it accidentally forgot the Apr.9 Rape and Murder Case.

In court, when the prosecutor asked Zhao Zhihong to confess to the 9 cases,

Interestingly, even Zhao Zhihong himself curiously asked the prosecutors: But I killed ten, not nine! Why don’t you ask me what happened in the toilet at the No.1 Wool Mill’s worker family yard, about the rape and murder?

Tang Ji, a journalist at Xinhua News’s Inner Mongalia Bureau, has been following the case.

He made an urgent report to the central committee in the form of internal reference.

The Inner Mongolia Political and Legal Committee formed a verification team to review the case and concluded that there was insufficient evidence to sentence Hugejiletu to death.

On November 20, 2014, the Hugejiletu case was retried. On December 15, the Higher People’s Court of The Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region acquitted Hugejiletu, the defendant in the original trial, and started the accountability process and state compensation.

On December 30, Inner Mongolia High People’s Court made a state compensation decision according to law, and decided to pay a total of 2,059,621.40 yuan to Li Sanren and Shang Aiyun.

On July 30, 2019, the Intermediate People’s Court of Hohhot, Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region, in accordance with the execution order, issued by the president of the Supreme People’s Court, executed zhao Zhihong, a criminal,

Horseback Tea Trading Trail in the Mountains of Jinjing

After the Opium War beteeen China’s Qing Dynasty and the UK, the trade between two countries went to normal. After the Revolution of 1911, Qing Dynasty became history, the Republic of China was officially part of the world trade network. Jinjing’s tea, especially black tea was popular in the world, every family was involved in the business, every piece of land available in Jinjing and nearby towns was covered with tea plantations. Therefore the

Horse Back Tea Trading

appeared. I guess they were transported to Changsha Port, or probably Guangzhou Port as well. Horseback transpotation was faster and more reliable than the boat.

This is our summer camp, and we were talking and imaging that part of our history, full of dreams and glory.

Our ancestors had the chance to live a life of freedom and self respect, but that dream broke after the second civil war.

What is a traditional funeral like in a southen Chinese village

The above is a picture of the feast. Eight guests sit at a table, attendees are villagers, friends and coworkers, relatives.

All foods and furnitutes are.provided by a catering company in the town.

This kind of traditional souther China funeral typically last for two and half days, excluding the days waiting for the right date of burial.

These two lists of names tell the helpers what their jobs are. The deceased old lady is a neighbor of mine. So I am obligated to provide two days and half ti help, and my job is to clean the feast rooms and funeral service room. I have been assigned for the same job for quite a few years because I am jusy like my father who passed away, never disappoint people whenever a funeral or wedding needs our help. We are the most reliable family in the village in this category. But my father was a lot more skilled and experienced than me so he would always be helping in the kitchen. He would not do low level work like cleaning.

This is how we clean piles of dishes, normalky there are about six to eight people assigned for this job. On the other hand, I am always the only man cleaning the floors. They have to find someone reliable for that kind of solo work.

This is the garage and lobby of the house, at the moment there are a lot of gods in this funeral service room, including Mao.

This sentence in white ink is the next half of an antithetical couplet 对联, which is always shown on both sides of a door. This half Couple says that We cannot stop missing you, and your looks are still so vivid in our minds.

This is the first half of a couplet, it says, when we enter the coffin room, we cannot stop our tears, goodbye mother/grandma.

This is just one room of the feast, there are three temporary rooms, all together there were typically 40 tables of guests, about 300 guests and helpers.

I dont know who this figure is, he guards one of the doors to the coffin room. He is probably Guan Yu关公。

This is another guard. He looks like 张飞, another main role and warrior in The Romance of Three Kingdoms.

These red packets are firecracks. They are short, used to annouce another round of ceremony begins.

This is a bag of snacks, the shredded peel of grapefruit soaked in liquid sugar. I guess it is used to be dessert serving the gods.

These yellow papers are cash used in the lower world.

These two containers are full of gadgets that visitors will hold on hands while walking and grieving along side of the coffin. The leaders and singers will hold the two large ones, while guests just hold smaller sticks. I dont know what they stand for.

This red and yellow and black brush like gadget will be hold by the funeral leaders who are paid to organize all ceremones.

The basin is full of ash, it is used to burn the yellow paper cash by the visitors as a gift for the deceased to use in her new home, maybe buy a piece of furniture, or some land.

Rice, acohole and tea, brought by her offsprings, for the deceased to enjoy.

Twelve animals made of coloful dough, by a crew who made all these coloful ceremony decorations and gadgets.

This yellow man is leading the lady to her new home.

That is my neighbor, she is a Buddhist, used to pray on behalf of families in Jiuxi Temple, and get commission as her income. She died at the age of 86.

That is where the traditional musical band sit.

In recent years, there is an additional musical band in every funeral, and they have a local woman, sometimes a man too, singing on the last day. They also encourage guests to sing Karaokay.

This box is a gift from her neighew.

This is the spirit of tablet of a god called Lamp Messenger.

Ancestors of the Chen Family. Her husband is a Chen.

Below this glass the lady lies quietly.

That is the coffin, a freezer, something new as well.

This table is used to collect gift money/funerral contribution from each guest, each contribution will receive one or two packs of cigarates and a towl for return. The table normally has three people working there, one writes down the amounts and names, another takes the cash and the third gives a package as return.

These are wreathes from various families or friends.

This is called Golden Mountain, a god in the middle of a mountain. Normally it is a gift paid by the daughter or granddaughter, to her brother or father. In this funeral, I saw four of them. So her daughter and grand daughter both paid the paper crew on site to make a pair of these, the Gold Mountain, and the Silver Mountain.

Another god guarding the fourtune.

The third.

A photo from outside.

A few ladies are assigned to serve tea, when their husbands are not available.

Where a man is assigned to make boiled water.


The 10th course, bamboo shoots. The 9th course, salty fish. The main dish, fatty pork. Goat meat. SoupShrimpMushroomMain dish, small abalone. The first course, duck.

The Rocky Blackboard and New -democratic Revolution

Jinjing is the name of my town. There is a central park called ShiBiHu 石壁湖, which means The Lake of Rocky Wall.

Look at the photo above, there is such a rocky wall behind me and my students. What is special about it? It was used as a giant blackboard by the local scholars, mainly local teachers, to educate the Jinjing people about a new democratic revolution 100 years ago.

They used limewash and huge brushes to write slogans on this eall, such as: democracy, science, freedom, etc. These modern new words inspired more and more local youth to fight against the old system, and began to see a much wider horizon.

Stone Boat and Mysterious Carvings

There is a place near our town called Stone Boat 石船. There used to be a boat built up with pieces of rocks. Unfortunately the mysterious boat was destroyed by the local peasants during the Great Leap Forward Movement period in 1958. A local friend told me that people destroyed it just to get the rocks to build a foundation of a preliminary school.

At that time, old things were all regarded as useless and obstacles in our path to a bright future. I asked an old man living nearby if he had seen the boat, he said no but told me the size – about five meters long. So it was not small.

Why our ancestors built such a stone boat remains a myth because the place is no way near any river or lake allowing a boat to float.

The only explanation is the globle flood that appears in Bible and many early human legends. In China we had a lengend called YU大禹, he was a tribal leader who led the people to straighten the rivers and let the floods flow fastly into the ocean. I guess such floods existed in Jinjing and the entire Hunan Province, and the floods remained between the mountains for years, so people built such a stone boat to celebrate the success.

Just 50 years ago, many Hunan mountain towns and villages were still threatened by the floods, including the Ph.D Village and my town Jinjing, both are near a river. We have the reason to believe that our ancestors lived in similar situations, or worse, 5000 years ago.

Since the stone boat is at least ten meters higher than the nearby river, we assume the flood was massive and it could be caused by an asteroid hit somewhere on the planet.

But why didnt the locals care about the mysterious and precious antique stone boat in 1958? Well, that was Mao s order and persuasion. People had no respect to the old world. Mao destroyed everything which distract people s respect to build his very own shrine.

I can take you to look for this place if interested. There are still some mysterious stone carvings on the rocks, along side the boat site, in the valley.

People say the carvings are all symbols of fisherman. We have more of similar carvings near our village as well, also deep in the valley, also no way near a river, also about ten meters higher than the water level in a river in our town.


I am biking with a student of mine, Peng Yong, going home from Yangtian, the PhD Village. I discovered a perfect trail for long distance biking this time in Changsha.

It took us five hours to arrive in Yangtian, which is also an old town with a lot of stories to tell. After half a day, and rested in a bed & breakfast, we are now heading home. It is a different way and also very safe and exciting. Most of the roads are like below.

The total distance is about 60kms.I will advise future tourists of my inMountains country inn in Jinjing to spend a weekend or two days tour with me.


Instead of biking, this trail is also ready for challenging hiking. 60kms in two days are not impossible to hike. What do you think?As you can see, there are almost no traffic on the road in the mornings when we will handle most of the biking. When it is getting too hot in summer, we will just hide in a farmer s house on the road side, or have a dip in the creek in the valleys.Want to join me? My wechat ID is amasia.